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Why I Wear Glasses: Hiding Yourself

August 31, 2015

I want to start writing more about personal things on here, such as body image. Let me know how you guys feel about this!
I have worn glasses since I was 10 when I was unable to see the chalkboard from the back of the classroom. Ever since then, they have been attached to my face and pretty much became a part of me. Lately I have been considering getting contacts (after allll these years) and a coworker has recently asked me why I wear glasses. The idea later popped into my head to write a little post explaining my reasons for wearing them.
Contacts scare me.
The idea of an inserting an object into my eye freaks me out, lets be honest. I also have allergies and am constantly rubbing my eyes, so getting contacts has just always been on the back burner for me.

Aesthetic.
This is kind of a dumb reason, but I think frames add more personality to a person, and since I haven't worn make up that much until recently, I thought that they made me look more interesting.

I "hide" behind them.
Well guys, this is the biggest reason. I always say that I wear glasses to hide the bags under my eyes, but lately I've come to realize that I also use them to hide my "Asianness." This is in no way okay--it's actually horrible, but reflects the society we live in that reinforces the beauty of light skin, big round eyes, and curiosity for people that "look different."

I know a lot of Asian women tape their eyes or even get surgery so they can have eyes more like Caucasians...it's honestly heart-breaking that we feel the need to alter ourselves to fit into society's ideal of beauty. Whenever I take my glasses off people say to me, "you look more Asian!" and I guess over time I just want to avoid these types of comments. My logic is that people notice my glasses first before they can actually notice my eyes. This might come off in a bad way and I just want to say that I am in no way ashamed of my eyes or heritage, it's more of the stares, questions (are you Asian?), and comments (I like your eyes!) that bug me. Also, being half white, half Asian makes me feel like I don't know my "true" identity. I'm not white and I'm not Asian, yet I know I look different.

Hopefully I get the courage (and funds) to try contacts, because now I feel more comfortable with a bare face (thanks to makeup!) so we will see where that goes.

Do you wear glasses? What is your reasoning for wearing/not wearing them? I know I have a lot of Asian readers...how do you feel about tape/surgery to make the eye look bigger and the societal "ideal" of beauty to look more "white?" I'd love to hear your opinions. If you feel uncomfortable leaving a public comment, you can email me @ voicetherapy@gmail.com

7 comments

  1. I like wearing glasses as a fashion statement, but because of my face shape it makes it difficult to find the right frames :(

    Tape/surgery is just a personal preference and if people want to do that then so be it. However I dislike how people felt the need to even take up those measures in the first place if this society wasn't so shitty and had to define what being "beautiful" is. It's annoying because the standard of "beauty" is forever changing just like fashion trends; I remember when most girls wanted double eyelids but now a lot of people just embrace their monolids and to be honest I think they're just as beauty as everyone else.

    I'm Asian and I quite like being that way, however just like other people, there are some parts of my appearance that I want to change and it's partly because of these society "ideals". I'm one to say that I don't care about what others think of me and most of the time that is true, but there are times that you can't help but feel a little insecure about how you look.

    Kelly ♡
    http://www.kelkelxo.blogspot.com

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    1. You're right that beauty is always changing maybe I'm just unsure of my appearance because I'm mixed. Claire Marshall really knows how to work her monolids...her makeup makes me wish I didn't have a crease sometimes!

      As human beings we are always going to feel a little insecure because visual appearance is the first thing we notice about others. Thanks for commenting Kelly, it means a lot! <3

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  2. contacts scared me at first too but I need to wear it for my job sometimes. I can't wear it every single day though!
    www.samanthamariko.com

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    1. Understandable! I think I could get used to them, or at least try to, haha.

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  3. What makes us beautiful is that we're all unique, it's so unfair that society and the media make us feel we all have to fit into a certain box. I wear contacts simply because I don't think my glasses suit a lot of my outfits haha but you should be feel comfortable with your bare face x

    Josie’s Journal

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    1. We as humans are taking the right steps towards rebelling against society and the media, but a lot of work still needs to be done yet. Thanks for commenting, Josie! <3

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  4. love it!
    hugs, jasmin
    http://www.my-berlin-fashion.com/

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